Well you certainly get points for being very graphically depictive in asking your question. I haven't had one yet that required so much editing just so that people wouldn't be on the verge of a mind blowing orgasm as they sat at the computer just reading your question. I loved all the specifics, but I do want them also to read the answer to your question.

To answer your first question, it is certainly ok that you liked it and personally, to me it sounds like your lover likes it as well, which is a win-win in my book. Many heterosexual men do enjoy anal sex and that includes not just being the giver, but being the receiver as well. It is not something that only men who are homosexual like. Enjoying being the receiver of anal sex also in no way implies that you have even a bit of a homosexual tendency in you. It is also a well known sexual fact that men can experience very intense orgasms from anal sex, orgasms that they would never experience any other way.

One thing I always stress is the need for communication. It is important that your gal also understands that it is something you enjoy with her and that just because you enjoy have her anally penetrate you doesn't mean that she is going to walk in one day and find you with another guy. You need to make sure that she understands that she herself is a major part of your turn on to being fucked in the ass. However, I would guess based on your e-mail that she fully understands this because based on your graphic depiction, it sounds to me that she was very into her role as well. But it never hurts to be reassuring and let her know that she is part of what makes anal sex exciting for you.

As far as your second question, I have many times been the giver of anal sex. Sometimes it was fun and yet other times it was something I wasn't interested in repeating again with that person. I feed off others enthusiasm during sex and especially when it comes to fetish activities where I am in the dominate role. If two people click, then it can be an exciting thing. But if I don't get enough feedback, I just got bored before we even finished and so it probably wasn't that exciting for either of us. Of course many of these were very short lived romance because it wasn't just in the bedroom where we didn't click, so trying to communicate so that I got what I need to be excited about it was a mute point, literally.

The guy I'm currently with enjoys anal sex very much. He likes being the receiver as well as being the giver. With him, we do click, but we didn't at first. The difference is he is a good communicator and willing to talk about what was good and what was bad. Most importantly, he is eager to talk about how to make it better and that includes talking about what I need from him. For example when I first did him anally, it was because I had talked about how great anal sex can be, how orgasmic it can be and he, being the adventurer he is, wanted to experience it. At first he was uncomfortable being anal penetrated and didn't make hardly a peep while I was fucking him. But as I said before, for me to get into it I need feedback. I need body expression and/or sound. We talked and the next time, I just coaxed him a bit with a little dirty talk and demanded he moan for me, as I slow stroked in and out, I asked him if he wanted it harder, faster and of course since I was going so slow, he did want me to fuck him deeper and harder, but I continued to go slow, told him to beg for it and continued to demand he beg for it till that was all he was doing. The end result is, now I could never fuck him discretely, he simple moans and begs too much and the more on the edge he gets, the louder he moans and begs and pleads, thus the more excited I get until we both end up sexually exhausted.